wondering if there are other woman my age on here who like to fish---also wondering if any one has ponds or knows of ponds withing 100 mile radius of Shawnee Oklahoma that the owners would allow me to fish (no alcohol, no trash, respectful of land, livestock, and landowners--will catch and release if that's what landowner prefers)

Unfortuantley I don't know anyone with private ponds around the shawnee area. On the upside, One of my favorite lakes in the state is not to far from where you're at. Try out sportsman lake. It definatley produces for me.