Ok I have read a lot of your articals but I have a question for you gals.

I LOVE my wife and she goes with me every time we go out no matter how cold, how windy, or how hot, and she really does try to fish and at times she enjoys it.

I really and truly do want her to fish with me but there are times when you know she doesnt want to be on the water but she wont say a word, just because she wants to be there with me.

Thats the way we are we do as much together as we can, She loves horses, I love fishing.

My question is do I even try to maybe introduce her to women that fish and see if a different perspective would get her interested in learning more about our sport?

Oh by the way before you ask, Yes I do ride horses with her, In lessons and on trails and yes I did buy her a horse.

Not that it really matters I guess but I thought it may let you know that I do care about things that she loves to do as well.

Ok, here's my thoughts.....such as they are.

If you are as close as it appears you are, she should tell you if she doesn't want to go.  You can not read minds and she can't read yours.  Communicate. 

As far as introducing her to other ladies that fish, that might backfire.  She might feel as if you think she isn't learning fast enough or that you'd rather she fish with someone else.  She might really like to fish with other ladies or she might feel really intimidated by them.

I was asked to fish in a ladies club several years before I finally did.  Intimidation was a big part of it.  I had to be comfortable with my abilities before I would even consider fishing with other females.  I've now been fishing with them for many, many years.

I would rather fish with my husband but also enjoy getting out and fishing with "the girls". 

Best of luck to both of you, may you catch many fishes!!!!!

We are close Deb and thats some really good advice and i wish she would tell me if she does'nt want to go and I do try to talk to her about it but she is just as stubborn as I am lol.

I do take my time with her seriously on the water as well and I teach her as much as she will let me, There are times when she shows a lot of intrest and shes learning while I am standing right beside her without a rod in my hands and its those times when I will make suggestions then shut my mouth and when she is ready to ask a questions I give her support.

Am I close to doing the right thing?

As far as friends go neither one of us really have any and I thought that getting her out slowly may help us to find some people our age with the same intrest's but I guess that will happen if its meant to.

Anyway thanks I really am greatful !!!

Yep, I think you're doing the right thing. Have you looked for a couples club to fish with?

As she fishes spends more time on the water, her confidence level will increase and the more she'll want to be out there. Try hard to NOT be pushy or short tempered at any time on the water.

I once had a man tell me I was too stupid (his words) to learn to bass fish........next week I'll be fishing the Pro side of the Ladies organizationial tournament. This will be the lead off for the next Ladies Professional Bass Fishing Series tournament trail. Doesn't mean I'll win it, but at least I have the confidence to enter and fish it!

Again, I think you're on the right track....just keep fishing and having fun.

Geez, What a BUTT!!! he was.

I have the paicience of Jobe no need to worry about that and I had no ideal there were couples fishing clubs that could be something to look into in the future and have fun with!!

I want to wish you luck on the trail be safe and be happy and let us know how you do if you dont mind.

Ok I have read a lot of your articals but I have a question for you gals.

I LOVE my wife and she goes with me every time we go out no matter how cold, how windy, or how hot, and she really does try to fish and at times she enjoys it.

I really and truly do want her to fish with me but there are times when you know she doesnt want to be on the water but she wont say a word, just because she wants to be there with me.

Thats the way we are we do as much together as we can, She loves horses, I love fishing.

My question is do I even try to maybe introduce her to women that fish and see if a different perspective would get her interested in learning more about our sport?

Oh by the way before you ask, Yes I do ride horses with her, In lessons and on trails and yes I did buy her a horse.

Not that it really matters I guess but I thought it may let you know that I do care about things that she loves to do as well.

she will love fishing once you get her into some good fishing, whether it be bass or sunfish/bluegill. I think people can lose there interest if they arent catching alot so just hook her up on a bobber witha meal worm or night crawler and you go for bass. I remember sun fish fishing was what turned me on to fishing. I caught 130 in 3 hours

I took my cousin and my roommate fishing. Both never went fishing.

My roommate stated she was not going to like fishing. Two hours later she didn't want to leave. We had to leave because we both had class in an hour. We both had our fishing hats on, because what is fishing with the hat. She refused to put on bait or touch the fish. That was fine by me. I used wax warms for sunfish and bluegills. She had so much fun.

My cousin on the other hand wanted to do almost everything except for touching the fish. She did put the warm on the hook but decided she didn't want to do the next one. She caught 12 fish in an hour. Every time we are together she wants to go fishing. This year she is going need to get her fishing license fishing for four years now. Maybe this year she can go ice-fishing.

My advise is to let the person you teach decide on what they want to do. It is better to take the student to a place where there are fish. Panfish seem to work great.

Oh Lauren. So true and so sad. Overcoming "social" and "peer" pressure that women can't fish, don't want to! is so hard. Hundreds of years ago women not only fished, they were acknowledged experts. Fishing was food, survival. Women then were in loving partnership with their men....oh, I miss a sense of those times that seem to address what's true between men and women !

We seem to have quite a few husband-wife teams.

 

 

 

We are close Deb and thats some really good advice and i wish she would tell me if she does'nt want to go and I do try to talk to her about it but she is just as stubborn as I am lol.

I do take my time with her seriously on the water as well and I teach her as much as she will let me, There are times when she shows a lot of intrest and shes learning while I am standing right beside her without a rod in my hands and its those times when I will make suggestions then shut my mouth and when she is ready to ask a questions I give her support.

Am I close to doing the right thing?

As far as friends go neither one of us really have any and I thought that getting her out slowly may help us to find some people our age with the same intrest's but I guess that will happen if its meant to.

Anyway thanks I really am greatful !!!

 

A couple of thoughts.  Why are you standing there without a rod in your hands?  Do you do that when you are fishing with one of the guys?  Could it make her feel as though you are watching over her shoulder?  That's a two edged sword, that can cut both ways.  It might help if you back off a little, since what you are doing could undermine her confidence. 

 

There is nothing wrong with each of you having a separate interest.  My wife has no interest in fishing.  She will go with me once in a while where she can see the sights on the water, and grab a nap on the back deck. She has interests that do not interest me in the slightest.  It's a case of different strokes for different folks.

 

What you are doing may be perfect.  For someone else, it could be a disaster.  In situations like this, there is no "one size fits all".  This advice is worth what you paid for it.