i also tell her the grass aint going anywhere, it will be there tomorrow

All of these guys talking about it being give and take are absolutely correct.  I've been married for 4 years.  Not that long, but we dated for 8 years before we married.  My wife works day shift 8am to 5 pm, and I work second shift 3pm to 1130pm.  I fish every morning, but I'm home at 12 noon to eat lunch with her everyday.  We are both off every weekend.  On Saturdays we usually do something together that she wants to do.  That might even mean going to the lake.  On occassion she will go fishing with me on the weekends, but she usually just likes riding in the boat.  When she goes to the lake with me, I'm not that concerned about catching fish.  If she wants to fish thats great, but if she just wants to ride around that's what we do.  Regardless of what happens the rest of the week, Sunday is our day.  We don't make any plans for Sunday that don't involve us being together.  If we do something Sundays after church, we do it together.  The trick is to find someone who you  love spending time with almost as much as you love spending time fishing, and you shouldn't have any problems.  My wife is my best friend.  

You can only fish so much, before the woman has a right to tell you to spend time with her doing something else. I'd say 3 times a week is fair.

My g/f is pretty good about it. But my fishing partner's fiance is meaner than a motherless goat.  She wouldn't let him practice a few weekends ago before the big tourney - even though we're currently in 2nd place in the overall standings. Apparently, "she didn't feel well." That WarHog never feels well!   >  

 

Man, I have it lucky. My wife's father fishes and hunts allot. So she grew up with it. But, she still needs to be shown that I appreciate all she does. I have a dream job where I only work Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights. I am off from Monday morning till 10pm Friday night. I fish well over 150 days a year. This morning is a prime example. She had a scrapbook party so I put the boat in the water at 4:00am and fished till 9:00am. I got home at 9:30 just in time to watch my two boy's ages 1 and 3, so she could go to her thing. When she got home we put the boys to bed for their naps and we went out in our back yard and worked on the landscaping together. The key is to compromise most of the time. Fish as much as you can. Not as much as you want. Continue to remind her how much you appreciate her.

But my fishing partner's fiance is meaner than a motherless goat. She wouldn't let him practice a few weekends ago before the big tourney - even though we're currently in 2nd place in the overall standings. Apparently, "she didn't feel well." That WarHog never feels well! >

Fiance'...well he still has time to back out!  Friends don't let friends marry Warthogs!! ;D ;D

Able is rite. I was engaged once before I met my wife. I broke it off when I realized that this woman would have put an end to my hunting and fishing and "in no way would she ever let me hang my deer heads on her wall." I would have been miserable, and the marriage wouldn't have lasted very long.

Or motherless goats

but if she just wants to ride around that's what we do.

I have a perfect solution for that situation JB, you can troll and she 's still getting her boat ride.  

Meaner than a motherless goat

Now that 's funny !!!!  ;D ;D ;D

Thanks for the tip Raul.;D  Now if I can just remember where I put that trolling rig.

MAN! I must be really lucky! I feel sorry for you guys! None of you wives like to fish? ? My fiance loves to fish. She goes out with me 80% of the time. She's can run the trolling motor, she can throw a baitcaster, and she knows how to pattern fish. (Kind of ) When I want to go fishing, I go through the mental rolodex of fishing buddies and she's always first on my list. Although, she still likes the "pretty" lures and she has to pee a lot,  : she's still fun to have out there bass fishing. I can even get her to kiss the fish! She's got a sign in her office and it reads: "Some women shop, REEL women fish!"

I know what you are thinking..."Yeah, but I'll bet she looks like she's been beat to death with the ugly stick." That's the best part! She is cute as a button. Ok sorry, I'm done braggin'.  ;D

It has to go both ways! You have to take time to take care of her needs to expect the same in return. This is how partnerships have to work. Being one sided will never work for long. I know this is a fishing forum but one has to decide what is most important and act accordingly. -- I am sure you will miss her.

What a topic, lol....Well I have to agree with Glenn on this one also, BUT after 23 yrs of marriage she will kick you out the door for any reason to get rid of ya!! (just kiddin').  

Actually, I did let me wife know I am an outdoors nut.  I will continue to be that way, it is me.  There were a few trial times in the first 5 yrs and I did compromise a bit, but I am a persistant person.  

My wife of 23 yrs is now very understanding.  She knows how grumpy I get when it is 70 deg outside, fish are pre-spawning & I am suppose to do what?  So I ask her in advance, what are the plans for such and such day?  I give her the first opportunity, if no plans guess what?  Yeppers, I am going fishing or launching arrows at something.  If she does have plans, I get very specific regarding times.  If i can squeeze in a few hours, I'll do it.  My wife is not a early riser, so I always have daylight to midmorning for my fix.

Relationships are a compromise. Fish during the day, give her the evenings. Take her out for supper, movie or whatever. Give her a few drinks and as she is falling asleep tell her "your going fishing in the morning", LOL...

Hey I can give you 5 best way to get your wife off of you back about you going fishing fishing.

1.The first thing you do is when she wake up no matter how bad see looks tell her that see look great today.

2.Take her out to dinner and buy her a few things.

3. Get her drinking some of the hard stuff untill she passes out (lol) And when she wakes up that next morning she will never Know. And then tell her we had a great night last night but she was dinking way to much.

4. Give her some money to go shoping for at lest a few hours and have a cell phone and tell here to call you when she is getting ready to leave the store Then by that time you can make it home.

5.And if she say's it's time to give one of us up buy her the Brad Paisley (IM GOING TO MISS HER)

well, I think when the time comes for me to get married, I have quite a few ways to make sure she is the "right one"... lmao

now I'm going fishin...  I only gotta tell my mom my room will get done soon and the grass is already cut!  (IT NEVER STOPS DOES IT?!?)  HAHA!   :-/

Well,  I'm lucky because my wife loves to fish with me.  Been married to her for over 20 years.

She has told me to hunt and fish all I want,  just stay out of bars and strip joints is all she asks.

Nothing wrong with that.  Done with those places years ago.......

No disrespect to any fellas who wives fish with them......but I did the same thing as Glenn when we met and set the standard during our entire relationship.  

To be honest...fishing is MY TIME and I take the ol lady every once in while but I like MY time with MY bassn cronies!  Its just not the same pitchn jigs with the ol lady as with an overweight, chew stained, 15 year long fishn pal.

One other thing- once you give something up like a traditional Easter weekend pounding bass at your local lake.......you will never get it back!  It is GONE!

Best of luck....but make sure you are compatable and if you are not ok with me fishing or hunting A_LOT then you are not compatable with me.

Happy Releasing!

This post reminds me of a joke....

Three guys are out on the lake fishing and one of the guys speaks up and says, "Man, you'll never believe what I had to do yesterday just to be able to come out here today. The wife wanted me to mow the lawn, trim the hedges and spray for weeds all day.

The second guy says, "That's nothing! I had to paint the house, then I had to fix the fridge and the car!"

The third guy just kept fishing for a while when finally one of the other guys says, "Hey, what did you have to do?"

The third guy just smiled and said, "Early this morning I gently rolled over to my wife and asked her.... Fishing or Sex? She turned to me and said, "Where a sweater."

Hope there wasn't too many of you who had heard that one.

The mean motherless goat strikes again !!!  ;D

I believe I would have gotten an angora sweater in that case.  ;D

I just registered with this site tonight, and instead of reading fishing tips, I read this thread.

Growing up on the Jersey Shore, I've fished all my life (just about), although mostly salt water.  I have 2 sons, and it was ME, their MOM that taught them how to fish.

My hubby  would take a book and prop himself in a chair  while my sons and I would fish. Sometimes I would have them up at 5:00 am to get to a near by lake. Just little sunnies, but we had fun. Times have changed,  and now my younger son  has turned me on to Bass. Just three days ago, and we've gone every day. Wind, rain,cold. It was so cold the other day, my fingers went numb but we were having a good time. I joined this site to try and learn more about it. So, my point is that it's NOT just WIVES that don't understand...I had a husband that didn't get it either!  

I ve been married for only 2 years, and my wife is understaning about most things.  I took up fishing again seriously about a year ago, after we married.  At first it was a little tough, who can debate that once youre on fish its kinda hard to peel away from it.  I learned that even when i wanted to go fishing i still had to keep the other commitments i had made to my wife.  But recently no problems or concerns.  Then today i saw this thread, and then i had to see if my fishing addiction was an issue ( i didnt think it was) and she agrees that its not as long as there is the age old COMPROMISE.  We often have opposite days off, so the few days that we do have off together, we spend together.  But she is also understanding about fishing trips and other outings that may cut into our quality time together.  i try my best to make up for the times that im away.  

BassMamma be careful, after reading your reply you 'll get lots of propositions from the guys, you 're everybody 's kinda woman.  ;D

But, THAT'S another web site! 8)