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In the past year I had last 2 friends until Tuesday when I lost a person I never thought I would lose, someone I took forgranted, the count went up to 3. At the age of 18 I was expecting that family members do get old and people pass away and I except and understand but, losing 3 friend between the ages of 17 and 21, one car crash,one freak accident, and one murdered, I cannot comprehend excepting this as normal. And as sad as this may sound, the other 2 deaths didn't really effect me as much as the one this week has. Idk if this a part of life but it is going to take a lifetime to get used to.

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In the past year I had last 2 friends until Tuesday when I lost a person I never thought I would lose, someone I took forgranted, the count went up to 3. At the age of 18 I was expecting that family members do get old and people pass away and I except and understand but, losing 3 friend between the ages of 17 and 21, one car crash,one freak accident, and one murdered, I cannot comprehend excepting this as normal. And as sad as this may sound, the other 2 deaths didn't really effect me as much as the one this week has. Idk if this a part of life but it is going to take a lifetime to get used to.

All a part of life. Things test you to make you stronger....Things will get better for you, just hang in there. When you are young, you take things like this harder, and it's harder to realize things will get better, but they will.

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In the past year I had last 2 friends until Tuesday when I lost a person I never thought I would lose, someone I took forgranted, the count went up to 3. At the age of 18 I was expecting that family members do get old and people pass away and I except and understand but, losing 3 friend between the ages of 17 and 21, one car crash,one freak accident, and one murdered, I cannot comprehend excepting this as normal. And as sad as this may sound, the other 2 deaths didn't really effect me as much as the one this week has. Idk if this a part of life but it is going to take a lifetime to get used to.

It gets easier with time homie. Just stay strong. Live Ur life to the fullest, and take this as a screwed up lesson. The Reaper comes for us all, no one knows when or where only he does. So make every day count. Don't dwell too much on the past, for if you do you'll miss the present. Again, just stay strong brother. My condolences on your loss homie.

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In the past year I had last 2 friends until Tuesday when I lost a person I never thought I would lose, someone I took forgranted, the count went up to 3. At the age of 18 I was expecting that family members do get old and people pass away and I except and understand but, losing 3 friend between the ages of 17 and 21, one car crash,one freak accident, and one murdered, I cannot comprehend excepting this as normal. And as sad as this may sound, the other 2 deaths didn't really effect me as much as the one this week has. Idk if this a part of life but it is going to take a lifetime to get used to.

It is inevitable that as you grow older that you will realize that the death of friends and relatives is something that is going to happen. Life is tough and will lead you into many low spots. It also has just as many if not more high points. For every death of a loved one, you can find a new life brought into this world that you can choose to love just as much as you did the departed. At your age, you have reached the point where you need to decide how you will react to this inevitability. Many people find strength in religion, while others simply choose some other way to get through it. What you decide is completely up to you. How you face these tests, whether you choose to dwell on the low spots or celebrate the high points will in large part determine the quality of your own life.

Grief is a natural response to the loss of someone you cared about. It may not make sense now, but I've known for years that the person who goes through this process of grief the most, usually does so because they had the ability to attract the most friends and loved ones. These are the type of people who leave the biggest hole when they pass from this world.

Even here in this internet family, we have the perfect example of that in our loss of Jack "Fish for Dollars" Yates a little less than a year ago. The reason we have a dedicated thread in his memory is due to the fact that he opened himself up to all of us so much. While I was never lucky enough to have met the man in person, his life touched mine, and felt the twinge of loss when I heard about his passing. Seeing that thread title doesn't give me nearly as much grief as it gives me pause to remember all of the great things this man meant to so many of us.

And now we come to this point. A friend named Austin who comes here to ask the question why. To look for help in getting through a low spot that he hasn't had to face very often. I can tell you that almost everyone who reads your post will feel a twinge of grief as well, simply by knowing that a friend is facing trouble dealing with this tough life. Many of us will post some sage piece of advice to try to help, and many others will only say a quiet prayer that you find the strength to get through this rough patch. Some like myself will do both.

So my young friend, I will pray that you find the ability to accept this loss, and will find a way to celebrate all of the good times you had with the person you've lost. You learned to care for this person because you shared many of the high points in life, and that caring will continue if you can keep those thoughts alive.

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Death is part of living , you just adapt and continue on , they will always be with you . Don't let it get you down. As said earlier live your life to the fullest because you never know when your number is up.

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It is inevitable that as you grow older that you will realize that the death of friends and relatives is something that is going to happen. Life is tough and will lead you into many low spots. It also has just as many if not more high points. For every death of a loved one, you can find a new life brought into this world that you can choose to love just as much as you did the departed. At your age, you have reached the point where you need to decide how you will react to this inevitability. Many people find strength in religion, while others simply choose some other way to get through it. What you decide is completely up to you. How you face these tests, whether you choose to dwell on the low spots or celebrate the high points will in large part determine the quality of your own life.

Grief is a natural response to the loss of someone you cared about. It may not make sense now, but I've known for years that the person who goes through this process of grief the most, usually does so because they had the ability to attract the most friends and loved ones. These are the type of people who leave the biggest hole when they pass from this world.

Even here in this internet family, we have the perfect example of that in our loss of Jack "Fish for Dollars" Yates a little less than a year ago. The reason we have a dedicated thread in his memory is due to the fact that he opened himself up to all of us so much. While I was never lucky enough to have met the man in person, his life touched mine, and felt the twinge of loss when I heard about his passing. Seeing that thread title doesn't give me nearly as much grief as it gives me pause to remember all of the great things this man meant to so many of us.

And now we come to this point. A friend named Austin who comes here to ask the question why. To look for help in getting through a low spot that he hasn't had to face very often. I can tell you that almost everyone who reads your post will feel a twinge of grief as well, simply by knowing that a friend is facing trouble dealing with this tough life. Many of us will post some sage piece of advice to try to help, and many others will only say a quiet prayer that you find the strength to get through this rough patch. Some like myself will do both.

So my young friend, I will pray that you find the ability to accept this loss, and will find a way to celebrate all of the good times you had with the person you've lost. You learned to care for this person because you shared many of the high points in life, and that caring will continue if you can keep those thoughts alive.

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It may take some time but It'll be ok. Keep positive even though it's difficult. Life throws curveballs at us sometimes, and when you get thru it you will be a stronger man.

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Sorry for your loss, but it will get better. All the more reason to enjoy the little moments in life with family and friends. Just please remember to talk with someone you trust when not if its necessary, don't hold feelings or emotions in.

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lynyrdsky1 while accidents happen and senseless violence are part of this world there is nothing normal about them IMO. The unexpected loss of a close friend or family member can shake us to our foundation. Most of the time when I think of those people in my life I remember the difference they made and there is joy in those memories. There is also sadness. One of the lessons for me has been life is short, and there are no guaranties. I am a lot more willing to tell those who are important to me that I value their friendship. I will keep you in my prayers (a source of comfort for me). There are many of us who would be happy to talk one on one if you would like. Good luck.

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In the last ten years I have known about 20 people that have died. I guess I am kind of numb to death now. Not A single person died of natural causes. Most were under the age of 20. No booze or nothing. Just freak farm and car accidents.

When I was 18 my dad was killed a few miles from home. I was torn up for a few hours. The next day I got up and i am like i have to go on with my life. The only problem is I lived in a town of 1000 people. They wouldn't let me move on.

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It is bad enough when we lose someone but losing a person at a young age is a tragic situation.

As you travel through life you will meet many people. Some will be great while others not so great.

Many will pass on before you. As stated above, this is a part of life.

I hope you can learn from each loss and if it was an accident you will not repeat the lifestyle that lead to the loss, i.e, drinking while driving, texting while driving, diving into shallow water, going too fast in a vehicle or a bass boat, etc.

You will also meet people who have terminal illnesses which will tear your heart to pieces. I have a friend who is dieing from leukemia. He has a beautiful wife and two great little boys, ages 13 adn 10. Nothing we can do but wait. Terrible situation.

So sorry about the losses you have encountered. Please stay strong and remember each person with a smile on your face as time marches on.

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