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Normally I don't get depressed and aint sure I am. I've been told on three separate occasions I'm too arrogant and conceited to get depressed.

Anyway. This is our first Christmas since my uncle passed away this summer, and our second since my pop passed away. I really miss both of them right now. Its weird not having them hear any more. Especially cause it was their favorite holiday. Oh well. I'm sure things will be brighter tomorrow.

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Remember the ones passed on, but, celebrate the living. 

 

You have a family and a responsibility to give them your best.

 

Merry Christmas

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There is no "Oh well" Dad has been gone for quite some time now , the memories he left me with are what I think about most , especially during the holidays , I still get spastic , I still get misty eyed , I still cry when I am alone on the water , you know what , I'm ok with that , I was loved by him , he was loved and admired by me , he is and always will be my Dad , my friend , my fishing buddy , my life coach , every year , I place the one thing I still have that we shared under the tree , my very first fishing rod and reel , the one he worked so hard to get for me , it allows me to remember the good things in life and what life truly is all about , remember the good and rejoice in it .

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I hear you. Thanksgiving was the first without my uncle and it was tough. My 8 yr old son actually broke down because "Uncle Doug" was gone. I'm sure Christmas will be tough as well. However, I am thankful for those that I still have. As I get older I realize how important it is to spend time with those you love because once they are gone, there are no second chances.

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What you are experiencing is normal, healthy in fact. Enjoy your Christmas, when your little man wakes up Christmas morning his joy and enthusiasm will be evident and any sadness u may be feeling now will melt away.

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I completely understand where you are coming from. I lost a great friend on Thanksgiving 2012. There isn't a week that goes by where I don't miss him. He was a great father figure and a kind man. One heck of a role model for myself and many others. I had a couple of texts on my phone from him when he passed and I refuse to upgrade my phone for fear of losing them. I sent him a goodbye text after I confirmed his passing and that is saved as well. Several months after he passed I ran into his son at a gun show. He made my day when he revealed he actually saved my message to his father because it hit the nail on the head. It is good to grieve, that just shows how much they meant to you.

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Thanks yall. Its been a rough year this year. Seems like everything just hit at once, and set in today. My uncle was a large part of what got me through my grandpops passing. We got real close when my Pop got sick. At the end my uncle started getting more and more tired (at the time we didn't know why). So I ended up having to take on more responsibility in helping my Pop. It was the single hardest thing I have ever done. He looked like a skeleton when he finally passed. Seeing him that way hurt so much. He didn't even know who I was at the end. This was the man that I saw 3 or 4 times a week from the time I was a year old.

Two months later my uncle was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He made it almost a year. He got real sick and was gone in a week. I've been so preoccupied with all that's going on in life. I haven't even had time to stop and think about it until today. I'm glad they aren't hurting anymore, but I still wish I could see them again. If nothing else just to be ablr to tell my uncle how much I love him. And be able to say goodbye

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I feel you brother.  I lost my one nana around Christmas my senior year of high school and the other one just a few years ago.  Every Christmas i remember how she used to come over and help my mom wrap presents on Christmas Eve and inevitably she would always mess up the tag on one and i would get something that was supposed to be for my sister.  She may have done it on purpose knowing her but i will never forget how she used to write my name on the presents.  It is always tough that she is gone and i wish she was here to meet her great grandson but i know she is looking down and smiling :) 

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Normally I don't get depressed and aint sure I am. I've been told on three separate occasions I'm too arrogant and conceited to get depressed.

Anyway. This is our first Christmas since my uncle passed away this summer, and our second since my pop passed away. I really miss both of them right now. Its weird not having them hear any more. Especially cause it was their favorite holiday. Oh well. I'm sure things will be brighter tomorrow.

I get the same way around Thanskgiving. This was the 2nd one without my old man around. It was a day of bird hunting, fishing, football and food. Without him it really means nothing anymore. I chose to work and give the newbies the day off.

 

My dad used to say, if you can go to work, fish, hunt and scream at the TV during a game, your not depressed!

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I think the past few years have been pretty Dang tuff on a ton of people , it seems the tougher the year the tougher it is to handle missing a loved one , it makes me wonder but at the same time it makes me feel good about the toughness and hardships they faced as they were growing up , the lessons we learned through their own experience and passed on for us , no matter how hard things get , there is always something good to believe in , to feel good about , to be proud of , to share with others , my thoughts and prayers are with all of you who are having a difficult time , may God bless you all and keep you and your families in his grace .

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Dealing with the deaths of loved ones is, oddly enough, just part of life.  When anyone near to you is lost, the pain in the heart is almost unbearable, but we all get through it, and then forever cherish the memory of the ones we have lost.  As I have aged, I have had to say good-by to too many of my family and friends.  Rather than grieve, I prefer to cherish their memories.  Our culture demands that we have a funeral in order to promote grieving.  That's really a shame.  Instead, we should have a party to celebrate the life of the departed!

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I'd say you had something wrong with you if you didn't feel a little blue. Remember the good times and be glad you had the chance to have them when you did. 

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Every day is truely a gift. With cancers happening in the family, loss of loved ones, moving accross country, dog dying, major illness to mention a few..well I've just mentioned life. (Almost a country western song) Praise the Lord we have had loved ones we miss instead of just let pass on. We can pass down some of those standards they gave us to the ones we love. Loss and ilness has and can be tough but when I look in my grandkids eye's and their actions I praise God for another day and thank him for the good times and memories.

Merry Christmas and a very blessed New Years to you all

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"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

 

Happy Holidays

 

A-Jay
 

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There is no "Oh well" Dad has been gone for quite some time now , the memories he left me with are what I think about most , especially during the holidays , I still get spastic , I still get misty eyed , I still cry when I am alone on the water , you know what , I'm ok with that , I was loved by him , he was loved and admired by me , he is and always will be my Dad , my friend , my fishing buddy , my life coach , every year , I place the one thing I still have that we shared under the tree , my very first fishing rod and reel , the one he worked so hard to get for me , it allows me to remember the good things in life and what life truly is all about , remember the good and rejoice in it .

 

Thank you for sharing. My Dad is still with me, but the words you shared were deep, and insightful. Merry X-mas. 

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Those heartaches are actually a good thing.  Be thankful for them, for they are a reflection of what your dad and uncle meant to you.  To have no feelings regarding their passing would be far worse.

 

There is a saying, "You cannot miss what you did not have."  Apparently you had quite a lot.

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Those heartaches are actually a good thing.  Be thankful for them, for they are a reflection of what your dad and uncle meant to you.  To have no feelings regarding their passing would be far worse.

 

There is a saying, "You cannot miss what you did not have."  Apparently you had quite a lot.

My family has definitely been a huge blessing in my life

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