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We are half way through this season and I have wrestled all my years of highschool this being my senior year, I like wrestling but lately I just haven't had the same urge and heart to go out and give it my best everyday and every match, I've been thinking about letting it go to make time for other stuff like fishing but I feel like I'd be letting the whole team down and be a quitter...

I've been on the other side of the fence, I've been kinda mad because are teammates quit before the season was over and now I'm thinking about doing the same thing, its just that every wrestling tournament this year I feel like I'd rather be doing something else like fishing, I just don't have the same mentality that I used to... I am very far behind because I have got staph this season and have been sick alot so I have already gotten behind on my training and I feel I don't try my hardest in my matches.

There is only a month and a half in the season left and I don't wanna let my teammates down but I just don't feel like I want to wrestle anymore... Idk I just don't know what to do, what do y'all think...

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Stick with it. Don't let your team down. There is plenty type of time to fish the rest of your life. You only have a little time to wrestle. I didn't wrestle my senior year, and regret it. Don't be like me!

Jeff

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Accept it as a challenge for yourself.  Stick with it.  Try to drum up the passion that you used to have for the sport.  Yea, you're behind on training and missed part of the season because you were sick.  So?  Get out there and train your ass off and finish your final season of wrestling with a BANG!

 

- Dale

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It´s only one and a half month left. Finish and think about it in more detail if you want to continue practicing the sport.

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I did the same thing with baseball my senior year. Played every year from tball on. Loved it so much in my teens I played rec league, legion league and all star league... All while doing training camp for high school ball. My senior year I just felt different about it. Had girls, deer, fish and cold beer to chase. Walked off in the middle of the season.

I've never regretted something so much in my life. It's a month and a half. Stick it out... You will NEVER look back and say... Man, I should have quit...

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You have a difficult decision before you. I can see how you might regret your choice. However, not giving it your all is also letting your team down. Ultimately, you know what's best. You're a young man and you are going to experience many challenging decisions. Right or wrong you have to live it up to those decisions. I coached h.s. sports for a little while and i can tell you, as a coach, i will respect an athlete if they share with me that there heart is not in the game anymore, vs playing or competing half ass. This will be hard choice,i will not lie to you. Listen to your heart. If the feeling isn't there anymore then you know what you have to do. I wish you the best of luck.

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Finish what you started and stand up for the obligation to the team. You will be proud in the end you stuck it out. What's a month out of a lifetime.

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A year ago I was offered free courses at college to take Machining classes that consisted of 2 years (3 courses).  I took up the offer and took the first course, I was good at it.  Getting near the end of the first course I started getting tired of it because I was more worried about going out and doing things like drinking, fishing, and making small money, just like you my heart wasn't into it.  So when the next course had come up they told me it would also be free because I was one of the first people to take it.  I told them I didn't want to do it anymore I got things I have to take care of. When my girlfriend at the time now fiancé tried to tell me to stick with it I wouldn't do it.  A month ago a man my dad knows told me he needed an apprentice machinist and told me to come by the job and bring my resume.  When he looked at my resume he said I need the certification the 3 courses would have given me. I would have been making $17 starting out.  But I didn't finish.  Not saying that you would be going out getting a wrestling job but you never want to be like me and look back and say I really wish I would have stuck with it. You will have time to fish and get out there and live life, but just remember high school only comes once in your life. Stick with it bud!!

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Stick with it. Don't let your team down. There is plenty type of time to fish the rest of your life. You only have a little time to wrestle. I didn't wrestle my senior year, and regret it. Don't be like me!

Jeff

 

 

I did the same thing with baseball my senior year. Played every year from tball on. Loved it so much in my teens I played rec league, legion league and all star league... All while doing training camp for high school ball. My senior year I just felt different about it. Had girls, deer, fish and cold beer to chase. Walked off in the middle of the season.

I've never regretted something so much in my life. It's a month and a half. Stick it out... You will NEVER look back and say... Man, I should have quit...

 

 

Finish what you started and stand up for the obligation to the team. You will be proud in the end you stuck it out. What's a month out of a lifetime.

^^^These Bud. It's a short period of time and you will definitely be proud of yourself for giving it your all. Plenty of time to fish later. Don't wish you had tried harder on the mat. Believe me, don't leave that mat wishing you had tried harder.

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 Playing a non money making sport is not the same obligation as working at a job for enough money to support yourself. Or a family.

 

People quit jobs all the time.......... You were not put on this planet to be forced by anyone to stay on the team.  It is a OPTIONAL  INTEREST for as long as it interests you.

 

Another person can not wait for you to leave. You owe the team nothing. The team certainly owes no player nothing. You DO OWE YOURSELF the undeniable right to leave whenever you know it was over long ago.

 

This pressure from other sports people is called PEER PRESSUIRE.  They are trying to make you live out a guilt trip.

 

Do what you want........At this point with the team ?  You are not giving 90 %..  Time to let your charged up replacement give his 120% for the team. 

 

You will get these guilt trips from all people who enjoy telling others how to live out their lives.

 

Do what you want.  You are not guilty of doing anything wrong.

 

 

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As a coach. Do you want a team made up of people being FORCED to stay on a team by parents & others ?  The drive of the team is useless to him.

 

Better to have the 120% gung ho people even if the have less athletic abilities.

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Being willing to finish what you start is one of the most important life lessons in my opinion. From sports to jobs to marriages there will be times when quitting is the easiest thing to do, yet easy and right are often at odds. Integrity and maturity comes from commitment to doing the right thing even when it's difficult.

Would someone please explain to me how giving more than 100% is possible?

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Be an example....not a follower...stick with it

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Do it for your team mates or be a ****** and quit. It is your choice.

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 Playing a non money making sport is not the same obligation as working at a job for enough money to support yourself. Or a family.

 

People quit jobs all the time.......... You were not put on this planet to be forced by anyone to stay on the team.  It is a OPTIONAL  INTEREST for as long as it interests you.

 

Another person can not wait for you to leave. You owe the team nothing. The team certainly owes no player nothing. You DO OWE YOURSELF the undeniable right to leave whenever you know it was over long ago.

 

This pressure from other sports people is called PEER PRESSUIRE.  They are trying to make you live out a guilt trip.

 

Do what you want........At this point with the team ?  You are not giving 90 %..  Time to let your charged up replacement give his 120% for the team. 

 

You will get these guilt trips from all people who enjoy telling others how to live out their lives.

 

Do what you want.  You are not guilty of doing anything wrong.

 

 

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As a coach. Do you want a team made up of people being FORCED to stay on a team by parents & others ?  The drive of the team is useless to him.

 

Better to have the 120% gung ho people even if the have less athletic abilities.

 

Your feedback is way out in left field and way over the top in my opinion.

Not one single person here is telling him what to do he asked for feedback and people have offered very classy well thought out tasteful replies.

No one including the author mentioned anything about anyone forcing him to do anything. he seems completely at will to make whatever decision he wants.

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C & G,

 

You've got a lot of time invested in this and 1-1/2 months is not going to kill you.

Maybe make it a challenge and think of it this way.... It is 2 min's left in the 3rd period and you are tied, reach back and find that little bit extra fire you've trained to find throughout your career.

 

If your 90% wasn't good enough the coach wouldn't be having you wrestle. Unless he is rewarding your loyalty and should really be starting someone else that is.

Another option is to talk to the coach and tell him that you are burned out and know that you are not wrestling your best and would understand if he needs to start someone else.

Maybe he wants to make that decision but is struggling with it. You probably ought to stick it out anyway as you committed to it. You can get through practices and ride the bus for 1-1/2 months.

There is another sports season after wrestling so you will still have time for the fishing very soon.

 

As others have said not finishing what you started can be easy but in some cases it can lead to habits that transpose in other facets of life.

 

Quick story: College wasn't the norm in my generation and certainly not in my family history. I was essentially the 1st person from my family for as long as I know of to attend college.

I only sought out a 2yr degree but as I was working full time it took me 4.5 yrs to finish it. I did this while working a 40-50+ hr a week job (some of which was 2nd shift), getting married and owning a home.

for 9months of the year I had a 2nd job (baseball & softball umpire) at night often from 5-10pm anywhere from 3 to 5 nights a week and often 6-10 hrs a day on weekends.

Several times I was exhausted and wanted to quit but I slugged through it and graduated with a degree in Industrial Electronics Instrumentation.

I would have survived w/o it but I wouldn't be who I am today had I not finished it. More importantly my children wouldn't have had the opportunities that they now have.

 

Good Luck with whatever you decide

(sorry for writing a book)

 

My .02  FFI

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Me senior year I did not play baseball because I found the loves of my life,golf beer and women in that order. I never regretted not playing. The difference is that I didn't start the season. Follow your heart. I would actually talk to your teammates and coach. They are the ones that are going to be affected by your decision. For those that say you have your whole life to fish don't listen to them. You never know what day is going to be your last. Live life to the fullest everyday. Treat people right and always go to bed with a clear conscience. If you can sleep well with your decision then do what makes you happy.

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Just tough it out for the season, imagine your opponents being giant fish flopping around the boat that you have to secure :D

That'll get you to try harder

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Fish-fighting.


 


   Who died & put you in charge of my opinions ??  No one asked you  to belittle me & my thoughts.  I have ridden to hospitals with far better people.


Peer Pressure is not what he needs. I certainly do not need any from you.


 


Catch & grease


 


 


Do what you want.  What ever it is. You need to be comfortable with it.    Posting here took a lot of good backbone. 


 


I support what ever decision you make. 


 


My best wishes for you.


 


Rich

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If this was your first year and you were just trying to see what it was like it might be a different story, but it's not. You knew what you were signing up for before the season started and by doing that you gave your commitment to yourself, your school, and your team that you would be participating this season. You owe it to all of them to stand by your word. It builds character and integrity, a few things so many people are lacking these days. Try to look at it as a challenge, like you would a day on the lake right after a front passes through. Try to find a way to motivate yourself to finish strong for the last month and a half of your wrestling career. In the end you'll be glad you did. 

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When the going gets tough, the tough get going...

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Thanks for the motivation guys, I've never quit anything in my life and I guess I don't plan on doing it anytime soon. I'll finish the season and try my best, but I can't start practicing till I can see my doctor Friday to get cleared of staph infection..... :(

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Me being the number one varsity 138 on the team I just can't bring myself to get up and walk out on all my freinds...

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Me being the number one varsity 138 on the team I just can't bring myself to get up and walk out on all my freinds...

Good luck on Friday buddy!

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Thanks for the motivation guys, I've never quit anything in my life and I guess I don't plan on doing it anytime soon. I'll finish the season and try my best, but I can't start practicing till I can see my doctor Friday to get cleared of staph infection..... :(

 

Best of luck C&G. Staph infections can be very dangerous. I hope it all goes well for you. 

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