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It seems like I can't be happy anymore... My girlfriend left me and went back to her ex and almost all of my good freinds have moved or joined the military, I haven't even started college and I can't save a dime I earn... I haven't went fishing in forever and I don't post much on here anymore... Instead of starting off the new years right I got completely wasted and ruined my friends night because they had to baby sit me, I'm surprised I didn't end up in the hospital...

My Ex-Girlfriend has hurt me so much in the last few weeks and no matter what I do I can't get over her, every time I start to feel happy again I think of her or what we were and I feel like crap... I love her, how do you get over the girl you wanted to spend the rest of your life with... I can honestly say that the time me and her spent together is the happiest I've ever been and it kills me knowing I'll never feel that way again... I need help...

 

 

 

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You will feel that way again..and better..when you find the one thats true to you. Work...work..fish..keep busy and lay off the sauce for now.

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Ain't no woman in the world worth destroying your life over

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Love is a two way street.  Find the right one that loves you back and you'll never knew this one existed. 

Agreed with deakn.  Lay off the sauce, suck it up and get your life together. 

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Buy some tackle to replace your bad memories and look forward to using it, thats what I do instead of other "things" when im feeling down or just bored. :D

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Sucks quite a bit.

Life is xxxx, and then we die!

Bro, I can tell you it happens, everyone goes through it. Don't let a female drag you down there are over a billion women in the world. You will find the right one. Don't be self destructive because you are hurt. Be proactive about it. Go lif the weights at the gym. Exercise. Get off your butt and stop feeling sorry for yourself. That's some of the best advice I have been given. Don't let someone else control your life like that. You know something, I spent 11 years with the wrong woman. I found the one I wanna spend my life with in 2014. I thought I knew what love was until she came along. I would sell my soul if it would keep her safe forever. Cause without her, I can't be. Drinking and drugs couldn't possibly feel the void. What I'm trying to say is you will know when you find the right one. 

As for being broke. I have worked sporadically the last 2 months. I got married and have worked 4 of the last 9 weeks. I have wiped out all three savings accounts. I am 2 months behind on all my bills. I need to make over 4000 dollars in the next month just to get everything caught back up so that it will only be 10 to 20 days behind. 

That's just how life goes. Things will get better. They always do. 

Go listen to, Ain't no fun, by Snoop Dogg. I think it will sum up some of what I'm trying to tell you.

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39 minutes ago, slonezp said:

Ain't no woman in the world worth destroying your life over

Preach on brother. 

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Love hurts. A lot of us have gone thru break ups & worse yet..divorce with children involved.

Deak gives good advice in saying lay off the sauce for awhile. It's going to sting for a bit, but it can develop character & make you stronger.

Hang tough.

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Hang in there C&G. It hurts now, but it will get
better. As C22 said, time heals all.

You have a bright future, focus on that, focus on 
being a good man, a generous man, a kind man,
and live your life. Don't be in a rush to find love 
as love can sting.

I know love's keen sting, but I did find my wife
and those old loves are nothing anymore - though
they hurt a lot at the time -- and I couldn't even
conceive of anyone better. Even so, I found someone
better, and I'm still married to her. :D

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Chin up, and stay strong! 

Been there, done that; and it'll get better. Hard to believe that, I know.

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C&G, I was about your age when my GF of 5.5 years left me out of the blue. I was on a 9 day fishing trip at a buddies place on Lake Minnetonka when she called me on day 2 and told me something was wrong but wouldn't tell me what. I packed it in and drove 9 hours home for her to tell me it was over. The next few weeks were spent trying to drink away my pain, but all it did was replace one hurt with another. I didn't fish hardly at all or spend any time with my friends.

After about a month I let a buddy talk me into going to a country bar to catch up a little. As soon as we walked in I saw the prettiest girl I'd ever seen. It's been over 7 years since that night and I still thank my ex for what she did because I would have never met my wife if she hadn't. 

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I think you were lucky....she left before you tied the knot.  Then it would have been real messy.  Everyday is a new day.  Try to maybe do some physical exercise several days a week to help burn off some of that #@!$.  Like they say above .... stay away from the juice, take a deep breath and start fresh. 

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Lots of us have been there.  It's going to suck.  Your motivation is going to be awful and you probably just want to drink until it stops being crappy.  If you do, you're going to stay a mess because you aren't changing your situation. You can't control how you feel about a busted relationship, but you can control how you actually respond to it.  

 

Seriously, don't worry about a relationship because a relationship shouldn't define you.  Set goals for yourself.  Get an education and a legit career.  Get in the gym instead of the bottle.  If you depend on yourself to make yourself happy, you have control over your happiness.  If you rely on other people's bullsh*t, you're going to have a lot of bullsh*t ahead of you. 

 

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Get off your ***, grow up and stop your whining.  That's life.  It isn't going to get better by doing nothing.

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Hit the gym instead and workout the depression instead of consuming a beverage that makes you more depressed. You'll feel much better about yourself and in the end will look better. In time you'll upgrade from the one who quit on you.

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2 hours ago, RAMBLER said:

Get off your ***, grow up and stop your whining.  That's life.  It isn't going to get better by doing nothing.

This is the tough love you need with a swift kick in the hindside (said with John Wayne's style of loving' motivation).

Life's tough and few are born with movie star looks, mensa smarts, trust fund baby wealth, and franchise quarterback talent. The rest of us need to make our way fighting, scratching, clawing and just plan 'ole doing the best we can we what we have. 

There's plenty of affordable on-line schools to start you towards your degree, or just start with one night class. Stop making excuses and just get it done, people are doing it all around you.

As far as the princess, forget her, she's gone......move on.  Many more women may come and go before you find that someone that both of you are on cloud 9.

I have 19 y.o son and 13 y.o. daughter, anytime they started to complain about their lot in life or how difficult something is I would tell them two things:

   1.  Life's not fair, so get over it.

   2. Your boat will never come in until the day you decide to swim out and meet it.

If I were you I'd go fishing.........Seriously, take a day or half and do something you really enjoy. Clear the head, refocus and use the new year to make better decisions. Not a lot of good comes from getting wasted and being out late at night. Not only can it lead to worse things it wrecks your next day.

If your good friends have moved or joined military maybe you should ask yourself why and get your own plan in place.

Best of luck...you'll get through it, it may not be easy but you really have no other choice.

 

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The last time that happened to me I decided it wasn't going to drag me down. I purchased a new 4x4 truck, two new fishing rods and reels and went fishing. I put 20k miles on the truck just fishing. It's a time ill never forget.

Now trust me another woman will come along. They will come and go till the right one comes along. Better to find out early she's not into you the way your into her. Suck it up and move on.

After that summer of fishing that November I met another gal she's my wife of 41 years now. Trust me the right one will come along. Forget it and start fresh. Remember the new babes don't want to hear about old relationships. Start fresh, start looking, stay sober, no woman is worth that. Get out there and meet the babes there waiting for you.

Look for a gal who likes everything you do. If she can cook, bait a hook, clean fish, fish, hunt, shoot, ride quads, dirtbikes, plus is a knockout in a gown. Looks sexy in camo. But has to have a good heart. she's a keeper. My point is write down the perfect woman for you.

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9 hours ago, Bluebasser86 said:

C&G, I was about your age when my GF of 5.5 years left me out of the blue. I was on a 9 day fishing trip at a buddies place on Lake Minnetonka when she called me on day 2 and told me something was wrong but wouldn't tell me what. I packed it in and drove 9 hours home for her to tell me it was over. The next few weeks were spent trying to drink away my pain, but all it did was replace one hurt with another. I didn't fish hardly at all or spend any time with my friends.

After about a month I let a buddy talk me into going to a country bar to catch up a little. As soon as we walked in I saw the prettiest girl I'd ever seen. It's been over 7 years since that night and I still thank my ex for what she did because I would have never met my wife if she hadn't. 

Amen to that!

Every life has seasons. It isn't her season anymore. Work on yourself. Meet new friends. List what you liked about her and what you didn't. Be open to new things but don't just grab the next one that comes along. You can spend years with "another wrong girl" by hook'in up just because you hurt. 

One day at a time. 

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5 hours ago, Jigfishn10 said:

In time you'll upgrade from the one who quit on you.

If I was looking to do it all over I would be searching for fat, ugly and rich!

 

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If I was looking again. I'd look for a tomboy. Who's a knockout in camo and boots. Money I'd supply. Looks means nothing she has to have a good heart and strong willed to put up with me. Lol a I life long partner means we put up with each other. Where there for each other in time of need and support.

Love means she will always be arm candy no matter how old we get.

Go to church or town gatherings she's there my friend. 

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48 minutes ago, roadwarrior said:

If I was looking to do it all over I would be searching for fat, ugly and rich!

 

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Oh man, so many places to go with this statement?!...I'll leave it alone...:lol:

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