I have been here a long time, but not real active the past year or so......and for good reason. What a personal life Rollercoaster it's been.
The short version: I'm doing well, my two daughters are doing well and are with me, and things are moving along ok given the circumstances.
The TLDR version: Late last spring, after 20 years of marriage and a 30 year relationship that began in high school, my ex wife and I separated.....this is where the fact is stranger than fiction part comes in. Without being to specific, let's just say I found out that for quite some time prior to me leaving, she was leading a second, secret life, under aliases on line, and traveling under the guise of "work trips" to Ohio and Wisconsin hooking up with these dudes she was scamming. But wait, there's more lol.....This past January I got a call from the Police, they urged me to move back into the marital home, and take full custody of my daughters, telling me my ex had fled the state, abandoned the girls, and was unlikely to return, and she had been gone, leaving the girls alone more tines than not for the better part of 9 months. I had my girls on the weekends and whenever they wanted to come to my place the entire time I lived elsewhere, and not one SINGLE word of this was mentioned to me , other family members, school staff, or anyone else the entire time, as they were having their phones, and other things held over their head to keep quiet about it.
Back to January.....Without hesitation, I break my lease on the rental I was living in, and move back home lock stock and barrel. After about 2 weeks of being back, getting settled, and dealing with two very hurt and confused teenage daughters.....the police show up again, and tell me everything. The just of it is.....her secret life has been going on since at least 2018, and to fund it, during that time period she embezzled $105k + dollars from her employer, and when they moved on her to arrest, she fled to one of out of state boyfriends. They eventually coaxed her back in February, charged her with an arms list of felonies, and was convicted of most of them in mid March. In two weeks she reports to the State of NY to begin her prison sentence.
In the meantime I have tried my best to make things better for my girls, and we're getting by OK. They have stability and a responsible parent in the house for the first time in a year or so, No more bribery or blackmail, and hopefully this summer is much much better for them than last. They don't talk about their mother much, and she's had little to nothing to do with them since January....and I don't force it. I'm just here for them.